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Your Purpose in Life is a Heck of a Lot More Obvious Than You Are Making It.


I turned 40 today. And I woke up this morning feeling…conflicted.

On one hand I am overflowing with gratitude for being alive despite all that I have been through recently. Not only did I dodge cancer earlier this year, less than two weeks ago I got into a horrific car wreck that left two vehicles totaled.

No major injuries thankfully, mercifully, beautifully. But I find my ego and my sense of confidence have been shaken furiously, calling me to question my self worth.

So this morning, I also woke up with a sense of anxiety about the bigger picture of my life.  Why was I spared? What is my higher calling? Am I doing everything I was meant to do?


I can only imagine that this feeling of conflict is something I share with so many other survivors. I feel as though I have this pressure to make something of my life; this urgency to do something significant with the time I have been given. I have been given an awareness of the how truly lucky I am and how wonderful and sweet life can be and I shouldn’t WASTE IT.

I seem to be repeatedly shown how precariously close one’s life can come to the edge of oblivion. And when I am yanked back from the edge and told “you survived,” I am expected to simply ease back into normal, everyday life.

But life after trauma is anything but normal. And I for one find myself longing to figure out “the big picture” and my role in it.

I feel like the clock is ticking to do something worthwhile; something BIG; something that will ripple outward and onward long after I do end up leaving this Earth.

Talk about pressure.

But what if our purpose is so much simpler than that? So much smaller, so easy, so seemingly insignificant, we overlook its importance and its true gravity?

What if I already had it half right this morning when I woke up simply…GRATEFUL?


That’s it. No catch. Just find at least one thing to be grateful for each day and latch onto that and let your gratitude radiate outward.

No matter how dire your situation, no matter how tough you believe life is, no matter what punches are thrown at you, I GUARANTEE you kind can find one sweet beautiful thing that you love in this world.

And your joy for that one thing? It can become contagious. Anger and negative energy might catch and spread like a disease, but gratitude and love and happiness spread doubly fast.

Imagine an entire population of people living up to their tiny purpose: gracious and loving people who can find the good in all they encounter; who find the blessing and the joy in every single day. True peace and serenity would indeed be possible.

So there you have it. You have one job in your lifetime; one tiny purpose: find your gratitude.

My name is Tiffany and I’m so grateful to have reached my 40th year. I hear that’s when life’s purpose snaps into focus.

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36 Responses to Your Purpose in Life is a Heck of a Lot More Obvious Than You Are Making It.

  1. Ok I had no idea you got in an accident! I’m so sorry–that’ so scary. Glad you are ok. Secondarily, this is EXACTLY what I have been talking to my therapist about. I always ask myself what am I doing of value? What am I bringing to the world? And he said, “maybe one thing you need to do is give yourself unconditional love–you love your daughter even tho she isn’t wealthy, famous or a person who has found a cure for cancer, don’t you? Unconditionally.” To which I said, “of course,” “Then give yourself that same love–no matter what. Also, what if your “lesson” is to be grateful exactly where you are, doing exactly what you’re doing?” Happy birthday my friend. I’m glad you’re here. (I liked my 40’s. I think you will too). xxooo

    • Yes! Gratitude and unconditional SELF-LOVE! I totally agree and will continue to strive for that every day! XOXO!

  2. What beautiful words of wisdom to remind us all! Living in gratitude is our life purpose! Yes, so simple!!! And I’m so grateful today for YOU in my life!

  3. Beautifully written, Tiffany, as always .. Most have expressed my thoughts already. I had just been thinking about “my life’s purpose ” and there you were… I think you have found your many purposes . You touch so many of us… Belated Happy Birthday. You are a blessing!!!!

  4. I’ve felt everything you have..the pressure has been enormous since the diagnosis three years ago. What do I do so that I’m not wasting the time I’ve been given? One small act of gratitude is a beginning. Happy, happy, joyous birthday to you.

  5. Tiff, I hope you had a glorious day! Looking forward to connecting and helping each other develop that life purpose. Simple as it is, relationship is where it is at!

  6. Beautifully said Miss Tiffany! I am so glad you are alright and with every challenge you face your wisdom just keeps on growing!!
    The power we all have to make someone we know or even a perfect stranger feel good with just a few kind words each day is an amazing gift of love…….

  7. Well said, Tiffany. On those days when I don’t feel as if I’m doing enough with my life, I will try to remember to be grateful and to let it radiate outward. Thank you.

    • Thank you, sir! And, you are very welcome (I’ve been hitting that chapter a lot lately). And, I will FOR SURE! XOXO!

  8. Tiff, so sorry about the accident! It must sometimes feel as though you are being tested.(?) I remember a very kind gentleman once telling me that I MUST be #1 in my life. Of course I disagreed at the time believing that my kids, grandsons and husband must be first. It has taken years for me to get it! You are #1 in your life and all that you have survived has been inspirational to everyone who knows you. THAT in itself is HUGE!!!!! Happy belated birthday my friend.

    • Thank you, Hazel!! We DO have to put ourselves first. Being selfish is not necessarily a bad thing!! It can be used for GOOD! Hugs to you!

  9. Happy 40th to you, Tiffany, and many, many returns of the day too! Congratulations for making it to that awesome milestone against all odds! I love your method of dealing with your cancer. Who knew that facing terror with joy is the answer?

    I’ve just made it to my 60th milestone, against all odds too… 2 different aggressive (grade 3) cancers diagnosed and surgery both – for both – within one year! And I faced it the same way you did. :)

    Tiffany, I have also wondered why about it, and about so many other things I’ve endured in my life, and my conclusion is just this: our ultimate purpose is to do ‘the walk of life’… whatever that means for each of us.

    As Elie Wiesel ( said: “God made [people] because [God] loves stories.”

    Keep dancin’ sister!

    Best wishes from a fellow (untrained) dancer,
    Maureen aka ‘Alex Owens’ from Flashdance

    (The National | May 30, 2014 | 2:39 Flashdance and its Canadian connection

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